positive footsteps
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A little more about Jane...
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When I was in my 20's, I’d been given a copy of “Women Who Love Too Much” (Robin Norwood) but it didn’t register with me that I was, in fact, one of these women myself. This was a book written for over-carers and people-pleasers. It wasn’t until I read - and re-read - “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway®” (Dr Susan Jeffers) that these teachings began to click into place and the penny dropped.
I was teaching adults at that time and had become increasingly aware of the impact of fear on students' learning and progression and I decided to contact Dr Jeffers directly, to request permission to incorporate ‘Feel the Fear’ techniques in a more formalised way into my teaching. Dr Jeffers agreed to grant me a licence to train others in the techniques but she also threw me a curveball - she suggested I train as a Life Coach. One year later and I had trained with the Coaches Training Institute and I felt as if I understood myself a whole lot better. Coaching, I believe, mines for diamonds. To me, counselling seems to mine for coal. Both can be extremely beneficial. I found that coaching seemed to tap into my inner strength - something I hadn't been that aware of previously. Shortly after graduating as a Co-Active Coach, I met a woman in recovery who suggested I read “Codependent No More” (Melody Beattie). Although I was familiar with attachment theory, I recognised that, despite a great deal of personal therapy and counselling, I still had more work to do on myself. I decided then to discover more about addiction recovery coaching. I myself began my own recovery in October 2000 and understood there was something which lay beneath the alcohol - something which drove me into unhealthy relationships. Codependency. Recovery coaching offered me deeper insights into addictive behaviours and provided me with the tools and actions to allow healing to commence at a deeper level than either coaching or therapy alone had done for me. More recently, I decided to train in the Human Givens’ technique of clearing and releasing phobias, as well as trauma, because I had been looking for something which could offer more clarity and perhaps break through resistance to change more quickly. Having witnessed and experienced the technique first-hand, I have found this to be true. If you'd like to move forward and are not sure how to take that first step, start with contacting Jane for a chat. My coaching style is compassionate, calm, reassuring, often fun and will challenge you to bring out the best in yourself - for yourself. |
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SOME REPORTED POSITIVE OUTCOMES FROM CLIENTS
- Improved communication skills when meeting new people (either at work or socially).
- Better equipped at dealing with difficult people and situations.
- Improved communication with partner and/or family members and friends.
- Becoming more assertive - in the workplace and at home - with many benefits.
- Feeling more confident with everyday tasks, e.g. making phone calls, arranging and going to appointments, speaking up in meetings, using public transport etc.
- Feeling more in control and on top of things generally.
- Increased energy and a greater sense of wellbeing.
I offer coaching for a wide variety of issues and challenges. Firstly, I use my knowledge and understanding to help you to turn down the volume on anxiety to allow you to begin improving your daily life. You might be someone who finds yourself caring or giving too much - at work or at home - worrying way too much about other people's opinions, what they think of you, their health and well-being and you're probably forgetting you and your own needs, health and well-being. People can become addicted to helping others (or addicted to relationships) and, when they do, they tend to put others' needs before their own, no matter what the personal cost. This is a form of codependency and it's something I've been coaching individuals to overcome since 2009.
I can help you to loosen the heavy burden of over-caring by using a variety of tools and techniques which have worked for many, many individuals over the years. By working on your relationship with yourself, your confidence will begin to improve, you'll feel more assertive and in control and you'll notice that your relationships, friendships, working relationships will all begin to improve as a consequence. By letting go of the fear, you can begin to bring your focus to areas of your life you'd like to improve. You'll be surprised at how quickly this can happen.
Take a Positive Footstep today and book in a session.
Testimonials
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Personally, I don’t like coaches who are too warm and kind, but Jane has kindness with backbone. She makes me feel supported yet I know she is paying attention and will definitely challenge me to do my best. If you want a coach who is perceptive, capable, challenging - and kind - hire Jane, she will give you bang for your buck.
Alida Shuyler | Founder of Recovery Coaching
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I am sure glad I wrote things down during our talks. I've been re-reading my journal from last year. Best book on codependence ever!! Totally tailored to me!
Elizabeth B | Writer, Canada
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Having done a lot of work on myself, I realised I had been 'stuck' for some time, a place that was familiar. Jane is patient, kind, insightful, compassionate accompanied by a real and lived understanding of the human condition. Additionally, she has the ability to be tough to penetrate and challenge the deepest resistances to change and provide signposts to options. She helped explore strategies and possibilities to enable real and lasting changes in my self-esteem, and I guess anyone she works with. So treat yourself well, do some work on yourself, you too can find out you are worth it!
Marcia A | Researcher
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Phobia Cure:
Bananas! I hated them! Yuk! That revolting taste and the slimy texture like no other food on earth. I can still remember the childhood horror of being given banana custard at a friend’s house when I went round for tea and forcing it down while trying not to gag.
So Jane said she could sort this out and I gave it a go. The process was pleasant enough. I had to visualise some places and situations. No force feeding me with bananas or looking at pictures of the demon fruit.
And now? Well, I seem to have lost the bit of me that found bananas absolutely revolting. I tried eating one and I can’t say I loved it but I didn’t want to spit it out. In fact I found the taste interesting rather than disgusting. I don’t go out and buy bunches to eat but I don’t worry about finding a stray piece in my muesli and I could happily eat banana flavoured cake or drink banana flavoured beer.
So what Jane did worked. I know this wasn’t a major life changing event but I guess this will work with all kinds of issues. Give it a try.
Bananas! I hated them! Yuk! That revolting taste and the slimy texture like no other food on earth. I can still remember the childhood horror of being given banana custard at a friend’s house when I went round for tea and forcing it down while trying not to gag.
So Jane said she could sort this out and I gave it a go. The process was pleasant enough. I had to visualise some places and situations. No force feeding me with bananas or looking at pictures of the demon fruit.
And now? Well, I seem to have lost the bit of me that found bananas absolutely revolting. I tried eating one and I can’t say I loved it but I didn’t want to spit it out. In fact I found the taste interesting rather than disgusting. I don’t go out and buy bunches to eat but I don’t worry about finding a stray piece in my muesli and I could happily eat banana flavoured cake or drink banana flavoured beer.
So what Jane did worked. I know this wasn’t a major life changing event but I guess this will work with all kinds of issues. Give it a try.
JL, Support Worker
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Positive Footsteps has supported clients of Derwentside Employment Team in moving forward after difficult life events. Jane's supportive, calm and reassuring methods have helped our clients to regain their confidence and self belief enabling them to refocus on their goals and to start taking their first footsteps towards achieving them.
Bernadette Topham, Manager
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Jane helped me to find my own inner champion by being my champion as a coach. She has the powerful listening skills that have to be basis of effective coaching. Also very helpful how Jane fed back to me non-verbal information that helped to connect me with the part of me that knows what I want; for example, if my voice sounded flat and unengaged versus full of energy and excitement. Her questioning and challenging helps identify blocks to leading the life I want, to identify goals and actions to take me towards goals. She is also very sensitive to the need to address the blocks and drains on energy as well as the dreams, and is very skilled at working on both these levels at once. Because of this combination of skills, discussion of action is focussed clearly on what I really want to change. When things were tough, Jane had practical suggestions and strategies that really helped me to centre myself and find my positive nurturing inner voice.
Jane’s approach has been tremendously motivating, and her reminder texts to help keep focus and remind me what’s important to me and stop me from sliding back to an acceptance of the situations in my life that I’d become used to but were not what I wanted.
Jane’s approach has been tremendously motivating, and her reminder texts to help keep focus and remind me what’s important to me and stop me from sliding back to an acceptance of the situations in my life that I’d become used to but were not what I wanted.
Harriet C, Housing Manager
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I would recommend that, if you have reached the point where you’re looking at Jane’s website, don't hesitate or worry - go ahead and make contact! Jane was a great support to me in my own period of worry and trouble. Sometimes it’s hard to see the wood for the trees - Jane was a great understanding voice of calm and reason whilst making you look at things that sometimes are not clearly obvious. I thank Jane greatly.
Shaun Dowd, Business Executive
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I contacted Jane about my fear of heights. I've always been ok with ladders and bridges but couldn't watch tv programmes when they showed sheer drops. It used to make me feel very anxious and frightened. It related to an incident I'd experienced as a child. I wasn't sure what to expect but something about it made me feel relaxed when Jane was talking to me - and that's all it was - talking. Now I don't feel anywhere near as anxious about it as I used to be - I can actually watch these things on tv now and it doesn't bother me, even though I'm still not tempted to stand on a cliff edge. Common sense prevails! It's just nice to be rid of that feeling now.
KD, Retired
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In all my years of long and laborious therapy, I have not arrived at such useful and practical insights. It does feel like the carpet has been pulled out from under my feet, but in a good way. I also feel a sense of loss and sadness for years spent chasing my tail and never getting anywhere. But now I have something to work with and can go forward from here.
RP, South Africa - testimonial given after Session 3
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My experience was a totally positive one. I received coaching over the phone. Jane is a very gifted therapist who was able to put me at ease and build a trusting relationship very quickly. Her support was invaluable and has helped me to recover from difficulties I have had for a long time. I would highly recommend her.
Christina J, Doola
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Jane is a incredibly experienced and a very kind person. I have first contacted Jane in 2014 for a trial session. I was in a very dark place and she responded very quickly. Within half hour trial session I felt like she's already known so much about me without me saying much We continued work for another year and a half until I was well enough to continue with my life without her assistance. Within this time, she showed great understanding, and flexibility with my schedule. Thanks to Jane I have learned so much about myself, who I was and why I was the way I was. I learned why there was so much misery in life and how to change it, I learned where was I making mistakes repeatedly and why. I learned new ways of thinking and how to overcome my obsessions. I came back to work with Jane this year, she again was brilliant. When I'm lost Jane directs me back on track. She won't do the work for you, but she will really show you the way to it all by yourself, and that you really are capable of improving you well being. Her 'lessons' stays with you for life. I cannot recommend her enough. Her presence in my life was invaluable.
Marta S., Designer/Artist
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How do the Sessions Take Place?
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Sessions usually take place on WhatsApp audio but Zoom or Teams can be used also. I've been coaching online since 2009. As well as UK clients, I have worked with individuals in the USA, Canada, Europe, NZ and Australia. Time differences can be accommodated.
I don't usually* offer face-to-face coaching - essentially, to allow you to relax properly and not have to worry about how you look etc. You've spent a lifetime checking other people's opinions of you - working with me, you'll quickly realise there's no judgement and you can be who you truly are. Calls are very relaxed and always confidential. * Exceptions are made for the Phobia Cure or trauma work, dependent upon location (additional fees apply). |
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